Start by understanding male sexuality.
- orgasm and ejaculation = not the same thing
Science has clearly demonstrated that orgasm and ejaculation are two separate functions that happen in two different parts of the brain. Alfred Kinsey discovered this in the 1940s, but even earlier, ancient Chinese and Indians knew that orgasm can happen for men multiple times without ejaculation. It is through masturbation that most men have fused these two functions, but through repetitive practice with self-pleasure techniques, anyone can separate them out.
- ejaculation is tiring for the body
Even a couple times per day can reduce sperm count for more than five months; even one day of ejaculating two times or more can reduce libido and testosterone levels for anything between a week to a fortnight. In a famous study of nematodes, otherwise known as worms, the worms that did not spread their seed lived two thirds longer. Mantak Chia quotes this in his book on the multi orgasmic man.
- Men, like women, have hormonal cycles
True! Just like women, without the bleeding. There are times of the month when men are more horny, and this is when their testosterone levels are higher. At these times, it is natural for the body to ejaculate, and for him to want more sex! At other times, the body requires more rest, so it’s a good idea for him to lay off ejaculation, or slow down.
- Erectile dysfunction might be an early sign of heart disease
The penis requires adequate blood flow to become erect, and problems with blood flow are a sign of heart disease. So rather than worry so much initially about the performance of the penis, it’s important to have a health check, and make sure that not getting hard is actually NOT about a more serious medical condition, particularly before prescribing medication. The best ed treatment takes the whole of the body’s health into consideration.
5. the average time a man is erect during intercourse is 5 minutes
Yes, it’s true. If that doesn’t work for you or your partner, there are many things that can be done to increase this time (see my website for tips and information). But it’s important to remember that men evolved to get in and get out – to sow their seeds to propagate the human species! Natural wiring leans in this direction, so lasting longer in bed is about training the brain to do things differently!
For more facts on male sexual health and links to great sex instruction videos, sexuality coaching videos.